Getting wife to start dating again
She had been very sick for the last three years of her life.
We have two wonderful sons and although we stuck It out, our marriage had some issues, she had borderline personality disorder and would often be very angry with me and just flat out mean.
Many factors combine to lower women’s standard of living after divorce. Expenses will begin to mushroom as soon as the divorce process starts.
Child support may not be adequate to cover the true costs of child rearing, and she might have lost many important years of career growth, making it difficult for her to get back on her feet after divorce. By familiarizing yourself with the twelve financial pitfalls of divorce, you can save yourself a lot of heartbreak—and hassle—in the future. Legal fees, court costs, therapist bills, new living expenses, and myriad other costs will drain your financial resources.
A few weeks after his death, I received a letter from my insurance company.I buried this idea along with the letter knowing I would re-enter the dating scene in my own time. I was by myself at the grocery store and I looked up to find a man watching me with an interested look in his eye. I called him and asked him what he thought about me dating. I’m so happy you are considering it.” Her response wasn’t what I expected, but from both her and my father-in-law’s answers I felt better about moving forward.To my surprise, I found myself feeling attracted to him. This innocent exchange of glances made me uncomfortable, but only in a sense that I realized I was no longer a married woman but an available single one. First, I needed to be willing to discuss dating with people who I was close to. He said genuinely that he wanted me to be happy and that he knew Mark would want me to be happy too. I wasn’t sure what she would say and was shocked when she didn’t say anything. Second, I needed to know that I wouldn’t be dating to just fill a void. However I had met Mark online and thought it was a good place to start. It felt a little uncomfortable to be searching for a ‘new’ man after being with one man for ten years.The children were not always spared from this as well she desperately tried to prove herself/ourself through counseling and later medication.She was less volatile at the end and definitely was able to get most of her past issues resolved wit our sons.
After losing a spouse, putting your heart on the line may feel like the last thing in the world you want to do.