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What works for one person often doesn't work for everyone else," she explains."For example: My partner needs a designated space to dump mail, papers, and other miscellaneous items to be dealt with at a later time.
"I was working with a woman who was the non-ADHD partner. Once while attending a social engagement, the husband said to another woman, 'Wow, you've really put on a lot of weight.' The wife was mortified! "This type of impulsive behavior can be very isolating.
The answer, according to experts, lies in knowing what can reasonably be expected of the person who's been diagnosed with ADHD and creating strategies that ensure both partners avoid falling into a parent/child dynamic by default.
"Their dates often interpret the person with ADD's habit of looking around the room as a sign of boredom." Another problem people with ADHD face is the very real possibility of being passed over by potential dates due to unconventional lifestyle choices that result from learning to cope with the distractibility, restlessness and impulsivity that Tschudi identifies as being ADHD's core symptoms.
Most of us have a door in our brain that is shut; before we say or do or something, it sits there for a second.
For the person with ADHD, that door is broken — or isn't there at all." Tschudi says that people with the disorder will often "seek out a partner who doesn't have ADD, who is organized, a 'tour director type.' That works for a while — one leads, the other goes along — but over time, this can lead to a dynamic [between partners] that's like a parent/child relationship.
[People with the disorder] feel like they're screwing up all the time, and this causes moodiness and irritability." Often, the key to making a couple's relationship work comes from the partner diagnosed with ADHD having developed individual coping strategies and "systems" which can also help them function together as a pair.