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However, “This surplus of women is not just ‘perceived’ but very, very real,” Birger writes.
In his book DATE-ONOMICS: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game, Birger argues that the college and post-college hookup scene is a result of the gender gap in college enrollment.
“In other words, the dating pool for straight, millennial, college graduates has four women for every three men,” Birger says.
Some research suggests that the gender ratio has a big influence on dating and marriage — women on campuses with more women and fewer men say they go on fewer dates but more sex, for example.
There’s been a lot of talk lately about how dating apps like Tinder are ruining romance.
A recent Vanity Fair story claims these apps are responsible for a growing hookup culture, where anonymous sex has replaced traditional romance, because they give straight young men the impression that there’s a surplus of available women.
In Silicon Valley, which is notoriously male-dominated, women have much better chances of snagging a man.
Santa Clara county, for example, is the only populated area in the country where there are more male college graduates than female ones.
If you weren't blessed with socially confident parents or, friends who did really well with women when you were at school, it can be a very difficult thing to learn as an adult."In this country we tend to live in large houses, in sprawling car-dominated cities, everyone held at a distance; it's not a tight-knit living arrangement like many European cities."We've also inherited some of the 'sexual repression' of the English, as well as their preference for dealing with all romantic and sexual matters after quite a few drinks. Well, if you're a single man in Perth, James feels sorry for you. Men have a huge number attractive, intelligent women (who will only date a certain kind of guy) and a large number of tourists to choose from," says James.
There’s another reason working against the dating odds of straight, urban women: in LGBT-friendly cities like New York, Washington and Miami, a considerable fraction of the men are gay.
Birger estimates that in Manhattan’s straight, college-grad, under-30 dating pool, there are roughly three women for every two men.
(In the past, difference in education level was a less important factor in marriage.) As Berger puts it, “New York City women looking for a match would be better off, statistically at least, at a fireman’s bar in Staten Island than a wine bar on the Upper East Side.” In other words, if women with a college education were more open to dating men without one, it would improve their odds of finding a date.
Of course, the same statistics that Berger cites regarding the uneven ratio of educated men to women in the dating world suggest that this is likely not going to happen anytime soon.
A 2010 study of 986 unmarried, straight college women surveyed in 2001 found that women on campuses with more female than male students said they went on fewer conventional dates, were less likely to say they have had a college boyfriend, and were more likely to say they were sexually active than women from male-dominated campuses were.