21 year old dating a 31 year old
It won’t magically give you confidence that you didn’t have before, it won’t change how you think or make you empirically more or less attractive.Anything you gain from sex was, ultimately, within you from the start.A virgin, therefore, is the ultimate expression of virtue and goodness (and thus priceless) and any woman who has an excessive number of sex partners (for a suitably subjective value of “excessive”) is degraded.(Which admittedly brings up the question of just who these studs are supposed to be racking up all these lays with, but that’s a matter for another time.) Even in this day and age when women are closer to social and sexual equity than they have ever been before, the double-standard still exists; the ultimate insults to label a woman are “slut” and “prude”.Some may become bitter and resentful, feeling as though they’re being cheated of something that they’re rightfully “owed”.
In Japan, there are references to a woman as a “Christmas cake” – it may look tasty, but nobody wants it after the 25th. I can’t count the number of letters I’ve gotten from virgin readers, men and women of just about every age who have not had sex yet and are desperately afraid that they’re “too late”.Some may have had physical intercourse with another person – oral sex, mutual masturbation, possibly even anal sex – but consider themselves virgins because they’ve never had penile/vaginal sex.Men are under as a rite of passage to adulthood is a deeply entrenched one; thus, men carry around the idea that you are still just a boy until you’ve managed to actually ejaculate into another person’s vagina, no matter how old you may be equates virginity with childhood.Steve Carrell’s character may be middle-aged with a steady job, a sizable apartment, a car and presumably relatively debt free…
To be a virgin is no different, ultimately, from never having eaten Chinese food or having been to Disneyland.