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We want her to grow up and turn into a beautiful young woman who knows herself BEFORE she starts all the dating stuff. I told her that we don't want her dating until she wants to marry.
She has older female cousins who are beautiful, smart and great role models for her. There is no reason that a 11-12- or even 15 year old should be dating.
But the only one I ever had a long term relationship with is my husband. I don't even think my husband was really dating our daughter's mother when he got her pregnant and we don't want something like that to happen to her.
So basically we told her that once she is old enough to become a mother, so to speak, she can start dating- within a group setting first before it become serious. I've told her that she is welcome to have her friends, including boys come over to hang out or for dinner or something (bedroom doors must remain open if a boy is with), but she 86ed that idea.
My daughter - now 25 - was 16 when she was allowed on her first date. Last thing - she won't hate you the next time she asks you to take her to the mall... There's no "right age" to start dating, but there may be a right level of maturity. We did not really date, but he was invited to our house a lot. If you do not allow them to date or have close friends, once they get out of your home, you will not be there to guide them. They may test you,, but always prove to them you were very serious about the consequences. Like anything else important discipline wise, of course she isn't going to like it.
Prior to that - again no cell phones - we joined them - discreetly - but we were there. And what is "dating" - they already believe that they are girlfriend/boyfriend. At the end of our 8th grade year we did go with friends to see a movie or go to festivals, church events. Too young for a job-too young for a boyfriend and movie dates. Not that she'll immediately get pregnant or something, but she needs to spend her energy and intellect elsewhere for the next couple of years if humanly possible.
You sounds like a wonderful Mom, your doing a great job! all the best, Susan I didn't read all the responses, but I thought I'd let you know what we are doing in our household.
:)T.: Make a compromise - if they want to go to a movie - JOIN THEM!! If you do this, she will feel like she has something fun to do with him, and you hold the cards. Let her give you death stares all she wants - 13 is too young to date. Later there was some kissing and flirting and light making out, but that was towards the end of high school. I had always thought you were a responsible person. Dating while under the eye of parents is the best way to keep things safe.I don't know what I think the "right" age is to start dating, but I know for me it's not 13! Thanks for all the great responses - I appreciated those that disagreed with me as much as those that agreed.The double date did not happen, and the stares & silence ended the next day. She will not want to wait two more years (or 3, whatever you are planning) to single date. Come in and out of the family room during their time together. He had met my mom and totally respected her and so he respected me. I think it is up to the parents to decide what is best for the individual child.We are now hated - enduring deaths stares and silence.I'm looking for opinions from other moms of teens about when your daighters went on a first date, had a first boyfriend, etc.
you can take the time out to explain all the risks she is taking now, and try to trust her to a point.... She has always seemed to be more of a tomboy and would rather hang around boys, which still happens at school, but in listening to their conversations that's all they are- friends.